Posts Tagged ‘self help’
This is why you’re still single
I just spent an hour researching the search term, “why you’re still alone.” I’ve never seen a topic riddled with more apathetic answers devoid of encouraging people to take personal responsibility in all the years I’ve been blogging. Here’s a sample of what I found during that hour of my life that I’ll never get back:
“You just haven’t found the right person yet.”
“You’re being selective – it’s a good thing.”
“You have standards.”
“You’ve been hurt and you’re defensive but it’s ok.
“You haven’t made it a priority.”
“Real connections are rare.”
Really?
So I guess I have to be the bearer of truth and tell you the truth about why you’re still single.
Read MoreForty. Fucking. Nine.
And just like that, I blinked and hit the big four nine. You’d think at my age I wouldn’t feel compelled to announce it. Would, perhaps, be more content to fly under the radar, requiring those who wonder to Google it.
I won’t deny that I thought about keeping quiet. I hate the self-indulgence of publishing a ‘me’ story. I get a good amount of attention. I don’t need a parade on my birthday.
But then a little voice inside my head questioned whether I was playing into a female stereotype:
The ‘aging’ woman who buys into the expectation that with each passing year, she will fade and become a little more invisible.
And that’s all it took to get my inner rebel stirred up.
Here’s what I think about entering the last year of my 40’s and facing down fifty.
Holy shit. I can’t believe I just wrote that.
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