#MeToo

Q Dear Dr. D, I’m divorced from a 8-year relationship, 2 of which were married. I do not regret the divorce. I find myself now in a situation where a life coach and mentor I know for the last 5-years has made his feelings known to me but I don’t feel like entering the complications…

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Trumping the Trump Card: Surviving Political Differences During the Holidays

Thanksgiving is the second happiest day of the year in the US – outranked only by Christmas – according to a Gallup poll.  But Trump’s surprise victory has many Americans reeling in the wake of the 2016 presidential election, and not surprisingly, many are dreading Thanksgiving as they anticipate enduring painful political debates at the…

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Just Say No

Dear Dr. Darcy:  I just got married this past summer to my girlfriend of 3 years. She’s very close to her family to the point that we vacation with them every summer (just locally at the beach). This year, someone came up with the idea to vacation together mid-winter, which means we’ll be flying off…

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Sexpectations

Dear Dr. Darcy: My boyfriend doesn’t please me in bed. Basically he won’t go down on me. He says that all the other girls he dated were able to come through penetration. He’s tried giving me oral sex a few times but always stops after a minute or two. Whenever I try to discuss it…

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11 Tips To Fix Lesbian Bed Death

Lesbian bed death is not necessarily symptomatic of a doomed relationship and it’s certainly not a phenomenon exclusive to the lesbian community. Pair any gender combination in a long-term relationship and most will report a decline in sexual activity over time.  What I’ve found in my work with couples is that the more I focus…

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Lonely Lesbian

I’m in my 20’s and I’m lonely but I don’t know how to meet other girls.  I’m just realizing that I’m probably gay, my family has no idea and won’t for the foreseeable future, and most of my friends are straight and don’t know I’m gay.  Consequently, I’m alone a lot and I don’t have…

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