Posts Tagged ‘Dr- Darcy’
It’s Breakup Day
It’s the most wonderful time of the year.
Unless you’re in a relationship and it’s creeping up on December 11th.
It is, statistically speaking, the greatest day of reckoning in the calendar year – the day you’re most likely to initiate or find yourself on the receiving end of being dumped.
In fact, breakups peak during the entire week of December 11th.
Click below to learn how to get through this week with your relationship still intact.
Read MoreWhat My Assistant Taught Me About Communication – Personal
I don’t expect professional relationships to work effortlessly – particularly when they’re mine.
I say that because, as a relationship expert, I encourage the people I work with to check in with me about how our relationship is going. And I remind them to do it pretty often.
The result, not surprisingly, is that every couple of months, I find myself on the receiving end of ‘feedback.’
I place ‘feedback’ in proverbial air quotes since it generally makes me cringe – because although my fantasy involves my phone blowing up with declarations of how amazing I am to work with, the reality of those conversations generally plays out differently. Click here to see how my ‘feedback’ generally goes.
Read MoreThe Secret To My Perfect Relationship
Almost every day I find myself sitting across from a client who’s struggling with relationship envy, only the relationship that they’re envious of doesn’t really exist. It’s a curated version of a relationship (or, relationships) that they see on Facebook and Instagram. If you’re popular on social media, it’s because you follow certain unspoken rules:…
Read MoreMy Struggle with Wanting to Look Cool
There’s a quote from one of my favorite movies, Almost Famous, that epitomizes my struggle: “The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what you share with someone else when you’re uncool.” I know this. Intellectually…
Read MoreDating A Celesbian
Dear Dr. Darcy: My girlfriend is a very well known promoter in the [San Francisco] Bay area. Although I love her, recently I’ve begun questioning our relationship. I’m not a jealous person but she’s recognized everywhere we go. I’m finding myself feeling competitive with other women. I was a women’s studies major in college…
Read More11 Tips To Fix Lesbian Bed Death
Lesbian bed death is not necessarily symptomatic of a doomed relationship and it’s certainly not a phenomenon exclusive to the lesbian community. Pair any gender combination in a long-term relationship and most will report a decline in sexual activity over time. What I’ve found in my work with couples is that the more I focus…
Read MoreDoom and Gloom: Dealing With A Chronic Complainer
Dear Dr. Darcy: I have a close friend who complains about her life constantly. She’s in a bad relationship (or none at all), she’s underutilized at work, she’s fat, ugly, still in love with an ex – you name it, she’s annoyed by it. Some of it’s true (not her being ugly) but she doesn’t do anything to change those things. It’s to the point where when I see her name pop up on my phone, I ask myself if I’m feeling strong enough to withstand her negativity without it sucking the life out of me. I feel guilty because she’s never done anything to hurt me, but when faced with having to see her, I find myself wishing I’d get the stomach flu to have an excuse to cancel. Am I an asshole?
Read MoreWhy Your Facebook Relationship Status Matters
Dear Dr. Darcy: My girlfriend of 2 months has not changed her relationship status from single to in a relationship on her Facebook wall. I know it sounds stupid but it makes me feel insecure about being with her. The only reason someone doesn’t want to do it is to be able to still date.…
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