#MeToo

Q Dear Dr. D, I’m divorced from a 8-year relationship, 2 of which were married. I do not regret the divorce. I find myself now in a situation where a life coach and mentor I know for the last 5-years has made his feelings known to me but I don’t feel like entering the complications…

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My Struggle with Wanting to Look Cool

There’s a quote from one of my favorite movies, Almost Famous, that epitomizes my struggle: “The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what you share with someone else when you’re uncool.” I know this. Intellectually…

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Step Out of The Closet Before Pushing Others

Q:  After coming out at 18 I was in a horrible relationship with my ex-girlfriend for 3 years. My best friend at the time helped me cope and we started dating. It’s now been 3 years and I love him but I’m confused. I feel like I am a closet lesbian dating a closet gay man. 

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Just Say No

Dear Dr. Darcy:  I just got married this past summer to my girlfriend of 3 years. She’s very close to her family to the point that we vacation with them every summer (just locally at the beach). This year, someone came up with the idea to vacation together mid-winter, which means we’ll be flying off…

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Sexpectations

Dear Dr. Darcy: My boyfriend doesn’t please me in bed. Basically he won’t go down on me. He says that all the other girls he dated were able to come through penetration. He’s tried giving me oral sex a few times but always stops after a minute or two. Whenever I try to discuss it…

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Battling Depression

Dear Dr. Darcy:  How do you be happy when part of you fights against it? For the last year I’ve been coming out of what I term “walking depression.”  I met my obligations outside, but inside was pretty bleak. My life is actually pretty good, although my job is soul sucking (child welfare worker).  I’ve…

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Gold Star Woes

Dear Dr. Darcy: I’m a Gold Star [never been with a man], I’m in my mid 20’s and I’m beginning to get curious about being penetrated.  I’ve mentioned to my girlfriend that I’d like her to use a strap-on and she seemed totally disturbed by the thought and actually asked me if I wanted to…

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Am I Causing The Bullying?

Dr. Darcy: I have been bullied my whole life. I am an 18 year old female and when I was in grade 6 I went into the bathroom and sat in the stall and locked the door because I was to scared to come out. I have gotten so mad at people for bullying me…

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