Girlfriend Makeover

QUESTION

My dyke girlfriend refuses to grow up and dress/act like an adult. She’s almost 25 years old and still wears androgynous-looking clothing and is always mistaken for a boy. I have a huge problem with this because I don’t want to be mistaken for being in a straight relationship and also, I don’t want people to think I’m a pedophile!

ANSWER

I’m not a big fan of the girlfriend make-over. In my experience, it’s a recipe for resentment and hurt feelings. It sounds like your girlfriend was this way when you met her and that you had the expectation that she would, I don’t know – grow out of it? Is it something that she needs to grow out of? Life would be so much easier if we could all remember that what we see is what we get. If you want a project, find one within your profession. There’s plenty of work to do in this world. Leave the makeovers for reality television. At least those participants are willing.