From Secrets to Stories: Choosing When to Share Your Past

Q Dear Dr. Darcy: My boyfriend and I were together 3 months before lockdown started and because he was basically at my place all the time, we decided he’d stay with me until things opened up again. I feel like I should back up and say that at the time ...

“For better or for worse.”It’s probably the most widely used phrase exchanged in wedding ceremonies.And I have a problem with it.I’m all for making a commitment to the person I love.And I’m all for loyalty.And I’ll tell you a secret: When I love someone, I love them forever - and ...

Seven weeks after the first case of COVID appeared in the United States, my 88-year old mother fell and broke her hip, propelling her into a rehabilitation facility largely occupied by the elderly. You can read that story here. That accident alone would have taken up my rapidly depleting bandwidth as ...

Admit it: The term we have to talk sends a little shiver up your spine. It’s probably one of the most universally dreaded statements. I’m not sure if it’s worse to be on the receiving or giving end, but for today’s purpose, I’m going to teach you how to be on the ...

Amy is one of my favorite clients. I’ve changed her name of course.She’s been dating her girlfriend for 2 years. Her primary complaint today is the same one she had in the first 3 months of her relationship:Her girlfriend tries to avoid any discussions that involve potential conflict.So basically, Amy’s ...

Saturday night it dawns on me that something is fucked up. My mother left me a voicemail and when I call the rehab that she’s been living in (click here for that story) to return her call, there is no answer. The second time  she doesn’t pick up I feel ...