The Passion Paradox in Long-Term Relationships with Dr. Emily Jamea

Ever since I can remember, I was told I was too sensitive. As a teenager, I wanted to avoid things that seemed unnecessarily negative, so I refused to watch the 11:00 p.m. news. It just didn’t seem like a good idea for my last thoughts of the day to be ...

No matter how many times I catch myself - no matter how clear I am that doing it does not give me the outcome I want - when I hear my wife Steph express words that don’t spit glitter, I react with some version of, it’s really not that big ...

I’m not a quitter. Not personally and certainly not professionally. People come to me when they need hope - a cheerleader – someone to fuel inject them with possibility. But every now and then, a client or a friend shares a story about a relationship and it becomes profoundly clear ...

With Valentine’s Day behind us, this week seemed as good as any to give you a microdose of your Dr. Darcy meds. What follows is, as always, the stuff you’ll only get here. This is why you can’t find love: You're looking for your soulmate. But the notion of a ...

Amy is one of my favorite clients. I’ve changed her name of course. She’s been dating her girlfriend for 2 years. Her primary complaint today is the same one she had in the first 3 months of her relationship: Her girlfriend tries to avoid any discussions that involve potential conflict. ...

 If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know that I’m all about personal responsibility – not in the capital R sort of way, rather, in the how did you contribute to the conflict you’re in sort of way.  Basically, if you can’t pony up to your ...