The Passion Paradox in Long-Term Relationships with Dr. Emily Jamea

Dear Dr. Darcy, my boyfriend of more than 2 years just gave me an ultimatum. He says I either stop being jealous or he’s done. I wasn’t going through his phone or anything like that. I stopped doing that a long time ago. But he was more than an hour ...

So I’m falling for an unhappily married straight woman I work with. We have become close, sharing information about our own relationships and we have built a strong bond. I’m not stupid. I know this is probably a disaster. The main problem is I feel so confused because I try ...

Everyone wants their partner to change. “Why can’t he be more romantic?” “If only we had more sex [hotter sex; less sex; any sex], I’d have no complaints.” “I just want her to make me a priority.” In my (gasp) 20+ year career, the one constant among my clients is ...

I’m a sucker for love. I love falling in love, being in love, supporting other people in love – and saving people who are falling out of love. It’s strange to say, ‘I love saving people who are falling out of love.’ Makes me sound grandiose. But it turns out ...

In your defense, it’s not like you were given the option to take Relationship Skills in high school and you chose to bypass it for Geography, though we’re probably in agreement that the former would have been far more useful than the latter. Which leaves you two ways to learn ...

I’m the first to suggest looking inward for the solution to relationship problems. There’s almost always something you can do differently to change the trajectory of your relationship. But sometimes, no amount of internal reflection, changed behavior, or LOVE will give you the happy ending you’re looking for. Because it ...