From Secrets to Stories: Choosing When to Share Your Past

I was catching up with my BFF earlier this week. He’d just hung out with a group of our friends.  “Everyone wanted to know how you’re doing.” “Did you tell them I’m still married?” It’s an inside joke that started during the pandemic. One of us would ask how the ...

Dear Dr. Darcy,  I am very close to my brother’s wife. We’re all in our 30’s and hang out on weekends.  I recently had a situation where my sister-in-law got pissed off at me for something I did. I understand why she’s mad because I was wrong but the way ...

Here’s the thing about relationship skills: They’re skills. We’re not born with them. We’re taught them. Most of us are taught them by people who are statistically more likely to be divorced than happily married: Our parents.   Luckily we’re never too old to learn something new. But to turn ...

I have been dating a guy who always has to be touching me, even when we are sitting watching TV. The few times we were intimate I’m there physically but not emotionally. I don't know why I can't be touchy like he is.   My last relationship was really bad and ...

It wasn’t the worst fuck up imaginable, but it was not good.  I was on a podcast talking about Johnny Depp and Amber Heard’s trial, and the host asked me to explain what it means when someone is diagnosed with both borderline personality disorder and histrionic personality disorder.  “So what ...

“For better or for worse.” It’s probably the most widely used phrase exchanged in wedding ceremonies. And I have a problem with it. I’m all for making a commitment to the person I love. And I’m all for loyalty. And I’ll tell you a secret: When I love someone, I ...