From Secrets to Stories: Choosing When to Share Your Past

Hi Darcy,  I’ve had problems in my intimate relationships for the majority of my life and never did anything about it. I know it’s time I confront it. The problem is I don’t know where to start. I know most good therapists don’t take insurance. I don’t think I want ...

I am in a relationship with someone who is a dear friend. We’ve always had a magical connection and in the beginning of this year things between us lit up drastically. This is truly the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. However, I’m the first girl she’s been with and ...

Nothing feels quite as invalidating as hearing, “Everything happens for a reason!” — however well-intended — when you’ve just suffered a trauma. And even though I’ve lived long enough to witness that the phrase usually bears true, I could not for the life of me understand why I was not ...

Ever since I can remember, I was told I was too sensitive. As a teenager, I wanted to avoid things that seemed unnecessarily negative, so I refused to watch the 11:00 p.m. news. It just didn’t seem like a good idea for my last thoughts of the day to be ...

Dear Dr. Darcy, I’m a man in my early 30’s looking for a relationship. Back in college I had a really bad experience and I think it’s interfering with me finding a woman today. What happened was I hooked up with a girl one night after a party and the ...

I’m not a quitter. Not personally and certainly not professionally. People come to me when they need hope - a cheerleader – someone to fuel inject them with possibility. But every now and then, a client or a friend shares a story about a relationship and it becomes profoundly clear ...