Gaslighting: Everything you need to know about it

My ex and I broke up 2 months ago because she felt like I deserve more and I felt like she needs time and space to put her focus on the things she stresses out about. I miss her dearly and want her back. What do you recommend?     ...

Any shrink worth their weight will tell you that criticism is toxic in relationships. It’s not just bad for the person on the receiving end — it’s bad for you because over time, your emotional memory gets strengthened and more adept at criticizing (which research shows will make you less ...

What pops into my mind whenever I hear the words “new year” is New Year's Resolution. Now I don’t want to be the Resolution Grinch but I’ve never been down with them — mostly because only 8% of ppl who make one actually reach it.  I think you’ll be interested ...

You asked for it. This is your list of the most stressful things that can happen on a holiday - and my best tool for each nightmarish scenario. Happy holidays from your favorite outspoken lesbian shrink.  TALK Personal questions, political talk, unsolicited advice — hands down your biggest concerns involve ...

I met someone last summer. Sexual chemistry was good, but she was hot and cold, so I asked what’s wrong. She said she’s scared of ending up in a marriage like her last. She’s intimidated by my symbols of prosperity and she feels bad about herself around me.  I thought ...

AskDrDarcy just turned 12 years old this week.  I started my blog in 2010 because all around me, people were vibrating at that frenetic frequency that felt contagious during the holiday season, and I found myself giving the same advice again and again, wishing I could put it on blast ...