From Secrets to Stories: Choosing When to Share Your Past

Even though I’ve built a specialty as a relationship therapist who only works with individuals, over time my clients invariably begin to resent doing “all the work” to improve their relationships — whether it’s work on an intimate relationship or with members of their family.  I get it.  Of my ...

If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know that I’m all about personal responsibility – not in the capital R sort of way, rather, in the how did you contribute to the conflict you’re in sort of way.  Basically, if you can’t pony up to your ...

I’m the first to suggest looking inward for the solution to relationship problems. There’s almost always something you can do differently to change the trajectory of your relationship. But sometimes, no amount of internal reflection, changed behavior, or LOVE will give you the happy ending you’re looking for. Because it ...

Dear Dr. Darcy, I have an issue with my boyfriend. Anytime we have plans with other people and we have a fight or we’re not in a great place, we either have to cancel or he shows up with a bad attitude.  I’ve told him how upset this makes me ...

Every now and then I come up with a new thought that sheds light on a common relationship problem in a more illuminating way. Last month I had such a thought.  I think I cracked the code on why sometimes even the most carefully worded feedback lands on our partners ...

Dr. Darcy, I keep having the same disappointing experience when I have casual sex. I get really close to finishing when the guy suddenly slows down and it lessens my orgasm. I even say, “Don’t Stop!” WTF?     WTF is the first thought that pops into my head as ...