Do not read if you want to believe in fairy tales

Do not read if you want to believe in fairy tales

If you want a long-term relationship to last, you have to change the grammatical association
you have with the word Love. I have a very rational explanation for this:

Emotions come and go. They ebb and flow. They aren’t consistent. The reason people fail to create new long-term habits boils down to this: They rely on motivation to propel them to take consistent action.

Click below to read how a small change in the way you view Love can make a big difference.

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The Enemy of Your Orgasm

The Enemy of Your Orgasm

Dear Dr. Darcy:

I’m going to start by saying that if I could be a lesbian, I would be. I am so tired of the guys I date giving up on me if I don’t come within 5 minutes of oral. Do girls really orgasm that fast?

My last boyfriend had a scruff and when I asked him to be careful (because his stubble was HURTING ME), he told me that he’s never had complaints before and that I was the only girl he’s ever been with who didn’t orgasm through sex.

Is there something wrong with me? Are all men like this?

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How Soon Is Too Soon To Move In?

Dear Dr. Darcy: 

I want to move in with my boyfriend. We’ve been dating 8 months and my lease is up in 5 weeks. He doesn’t think we’ve dated long enough but if we don’t move in now, we’ll be dating at least another year before my new lease is up. It really feels like he’s just stalling.  There are so many legitimate reasons to do this now. Why should we be paying 2 rents for another year if moving in together is inevitable?

ANSWER

Because it’s not inevitable. Your guy’s buying himself some time – a smart move given that you’re likely still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship. You still see each other through a haze of love (click here to see how your brain responds to being in love).  Your drug soaked brains can’t decipher alarming data from charming data.  But like all honeymoons, yours will come to an end. Probably within the next 4 months.

I know that the lure of a bigger apartment in a better neighborhood – with half the rent and half the chores - is appealing, but the truth is you can’t possibly know who this man is yet – and he can’t know who you are. Your bodies are still producing neurochemicals that cause you to be on your best behavior while simultaneously diminishing your ability to accurately identify negative information. This is not a moment in your life when you should be making long-term decisions. Lucky for you, your guy knows this.

If you’re feeling like it’s too difficult to control the urge to push the issue further, schedule a night to sit down with your guy and ask him to answer the questions linked right here.  His answers will give you all the willpower you need. You’re welcome.

Gender & Orientation: Female, Straight.