Was it Consent or Did She Relent?

Was it Consent or Did She Relent?

If you’re a woman who’s spent any time dating men, you’ve been there. The fact that you may never have spoken about it is probably a combined result of how often it’s happened to you and how sexually nuanced the experience is.

 I’ve heard of it happening to women who are in committed relationships, I’ve heard it described by women who barely knew the guy, and I’ve heard too many scenarios in between.

 It’s that moment when you’re being asked to have sex, and you say no, but instead of hearing your ‘no’ as a NO, he dials up his seduction...

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The Enemy of Your Orgasm

The Enemy of Your Orgasm

Dear Dr. Darcy:

I’m going to start by saying that if I could be a lesbian, I would be. I am so tired of the guys I date giving up on me if I don’t come within 5 minutes of oral. Do girls really orgasm that fast?

My last boyfriend had a scruff and when I asked him to be careful (because his stubble was HURTING ME), he told me that he’s never had complaints before and that I was the only girl he’s ever been with who didn’t orgasm through sex.

Is there something wrong with me? Are all men like this?

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Step Out of The Closet Before Pushing Others

Step Out of The Closet Before Pushing Others

Q:  After coming out at 18 I was in a horrible relationship with my ex-girlfriend for 3 years. My best friend at the time helped me cope and we started dating. It’s now been 3 years and I love him but I'm confused. I feel like I am a closet lesbian dating a closet gay man. 

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