Is the third time a charm?

Is the third time a charm?

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Dear Dr. Darcy:

I dated my ex for almost 2 yrs. We broke up summer 2017. He up and left one day and blamed it on dealing with a family death and, "this is how I always act when something like this happens."

We remained friendly and friends-with-benefits for a good 8-months. Then he got a new job and did not need me anymore, I guess. Three months after no contact he contacted me and told me he made a huge mistake. Told me everything I wanted to hear. I was a bitch to him the first few months because I was scared he’d leave again. I wanted to embrace him but did not. He told me he changed and was not going to quit anymore, [so we got back together]. Then, he quit. I am now back in the friend zone again because he’s stressed with his father’s illness and his career.

He is the love of my life. Do I stay friends in hopes we can work out things once and for all?

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This is 100% What An Affair Looks Like.

This is 100% What An Affair Looks Like.

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Dear Dr. Darcy:

I’ve been dating a man for 4 months and I’m deeply in love with him. He lives in a suburb outside of the city and I live in [Greenwich] Village.  Our interests, sex life, and personalities are more compatible than with any other person I’ve been with. I’m at a point where I want to introduce him to my friends and family and suddenly he’s acting strange – particularly around the idea of introducing me to his friends and family.  I have a friend who thinks it’s bizarre that a single man in his mid 30’s lives in a suburb in a house rather than in New York City where he works. She also pointed out to me that he sometimes has work crises that cause him to cancel plans within an hour of our dates. And at least two weekends a month, he’s unable to come into [New York City] to see me. What do you think this is all about?

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Sexpectations

Sexpectations

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Dear Dr. Darcy:
My boyfriend doesn't please me in bed. Basically, he won’t go down on me. He says that all the other girls he dated were able to come through penetration. He’s tried giving me oral sex a few times but always stops after a minute or two. Whenever I try to discuss it I feel like he turns it into there being something wrong with me that I can’t come through sex. He’s made it clear he doesn’t like going down on women but for me, that’s the only way I can orgasm. I’ve looked up how to have vaginal orgasms and I keep trying but it just never works. Is there something wrong with me?

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