Is the third time a charm?

Is the third time a charm?

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Dear Dr. Darcy:

I dated my ex for almost 2 yrs. We broke up summer 2017. He up and left one day and blamed it on dealing with a family death and, "this is how I always act when something like this happens."

We remained friendly and friends-with-benefits for a good 8-months. Then he got a new job and did not need me anymore, I guess. Three months after no contact he contacted me and told me he made a huge mistake. Told me everything I wanted to hear. I was a bitch to him the first few months because I was scared he’d leave again. I wanted to embrace him but did not. He told me he changed and was not going to quit anymore, [so we got back together]. Then, he quit. I am now back in the friend zone again because he’s stressed with his father’s illness and his career.

He is the love of my life. Do I stay friends in hopes we can work out things once and for all?

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This is 100% What An Affair Looks Like.

This is 100% What An Affair Looks Like.

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Dear Dr. Darcy:

I’ve been dating a man for 4 months and I’m deeply in love with him. He lives in a suburb outside of the city and I live in [Greenwich] Village.  Our interests, sex life, and personalities are more compatible than with any other person I’ve been with. I’m at a point where I want to introduce him to my friends and family and suddenly he’s acting strange – particularly around the idea of introducing me to his friends and family.  I have a friend who thinks it’s bizarre that a single man in his mid 30’s lives in a suburb in a house rather than in New York City where he works. She also pointed out to me that he sometimes has work crises that cause him to cancel plans within an hour of our dates. And at least two weekends a month, he’s unable to come into [New York City] to see me. What do you think this is all about?

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New Year, New Sex + Love Strategy. Bring it, 2019.

New Year, New Sex + Love Strategy. Bring it, 2019.

I don’t know about you, but 2018 felt less like a year and more like a decade to me. Or like I was cramming for final exams. All. Year. Long.

Realizing that I’ve been feeling so much pressure makes my inner rebel want to take over. It makes me want to break rules. Test boundaries. Push back.

So, as 2018 (thankfully) fades in our collective rearview mirror, I’ve decided to surrender control of my keyboard - and this blog post - to my inner 16-year old.  Here’s how she thinks you should shake things up in 2019, so we all feel a lot less serious this time next year:

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