Good afternoon Dr. Darcy,
I'm 27 years old, my parents don't know that I'm gay and I don't have lesbian friends, only one friend knows that I'm gay but I don't feel comfortable talking to her about relationships and stuff. I haven't had a girlfriend in like... never, and I really want to start a relationship with a woman. I tried connecting with people on twitter but it doesn't work and I don't want to annoy people. What would you recommend me for start a new relationship? I thank you in advance for your help.
Ps. I'm from Colombia!
Welcome to the team, mama. You’re in the toughest phase of being gay – that state of limbo when you know you’re gay, and some people in your world know, but because they’re straight you don’t feel comfortable discussing it with them or asking them to go out with you to places where you’re likely to meet other gays. And so you’re in this moment of isolation because you’re disconnected from the community knowing you belong in the community. Hang in there. We’ll fix this.
But the first thing we have to do is get you to stop trying to meet women via Twitter. Twitter is great for some things - online dating, not so much. But speaking of online dating, why aren’t you doing it? That’s where I’d be focusing my attention if I were you, and I used to be you and that’s exactly what I did back in the day.
I don’t know what online dating sites the girls in Colombia are using, but I’m sure an hour’s worth of research will clarify that. Here in the states you’d be using Match.com, OKCupid.com, PinkCupid.com…the list goes on and on. You can also go to MeetUp.com to find in-person gatherings for lesbians.
Ultimately, you need friends more than you need dates because most dates won’t work out (I’m not being negative here - it’s a statistical certainty) and when that happens, you need a lesbian friend who you can go out with to meet new women. This is great news for you because it means that online dating can’t fail you. Why? Because if there’ s no chemistry with the woman you meet, she becomes your friend. It’s a win-win. So get off my site and start figuring out the best lesbian dating sites in Colombia and find yourself a tribe!
Writer’s stats: Female, Lesbian.