Love Of The Chase

QUESTION

I think I'm starting to have feelings for one of my close friends. She's known me since high school and over the years she's become one of the most important people in my life. My girlfriend put a wedge between us since we've been dating and now I hardly ever see my friend. I tend to want things that I can't have and I'm wondering if my feelings for my friend are real or if my girlfriend's jealousy is making me think I feel something I don't. What do you think?

ANSWER

What I think could take up pages so consider yourself fortunate that my column has a limited number of words.

As far as your friend is concerned, tread carefully before imposing your confusion on her. And if you care about your friend as you say you do, I suggest you catapult yourself onto the nearest shrink's couch to clarify your feelings, lest you leave two casualties in your selfish wake.

You mention that your girlfriend is jealous of your friend, and her discomfort with the relationship has put a wedge between the two of you, right? Does this sound confusing? If you answered 'Yes', it's because it is confusing to everyone; including your girlfriend!

Extend a courtesy to this community and take a break from the girlfriend so you can reflect on your feelings for your friend. Spare us of yet another lesbian who was manipulated into endorsing a not-so-platonic relationship only to find out that she was played, thus morphing into that distrustful woman who thinks that same-sex is code for some-sex. And until such a time as your shrink alters your status, I think that you should be wrapped in yellow, 'Caution' tape.