Dear Dr. Darcy:
I'm a thirty-year-old woman with a dilemma. As a young girl I was abused repeatedly, with no avenues for help available to me I sought a way to return to a time when there was no pain. I decided to wear diapers for safety and this has followed me ever since. I'm addicted to wearing diapers for sexual gratification and would like to know if this can be reversed? The more I try to stop the more depressed I become. Please give me your advice on how to handle this.
Like my readers, I have a ton of questions but because I can’t ask them I’ll do my best with what information I have.
We can change any behavior but change involves tolerating discomfort ~ something few people are willing to push through which is why most people quit their New Year’s resolutions before they reach the end of January.
The diaper is a coping mechanism, and while it’s an odd one, it’s also creative. The upside is that it’s allowed you to enjoy sex as an adult without delving into the trauma you sustained. The downside is that it’s a band-aid and all you’ve really managed to accomplish is postpone healing from the abuse, plus introduce a second issue that you’ll eventually have to wean yourself off of. You become depressed when you try to stop wearing the diapers because you have nothing else to rely on to manage the depression (which you’ve been able to keep at arm’s length by wearing the diapers).
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: There is no shortcut to working through your issues, and the magnitude of yours involves going into therapy. You can, however, accelerate the process of therapy tremendously by using a product made by Centerpointe, which I sell on AskDrDarcy.com on the right-hand side of the page. Centerpointe makes a meditation program which puts you in a deep meditative state through the use of binaural beats. It’s a miracle program - one which I require all of my clients to use in conjunction with therapy. If you click on the link, they’ll send you a free sample which will explain, in depth, how binaural beats work to heal trauma.
Sexual abuse is a severe trauma to endure. That said, you don't need to be defined or limited by your history. If you'd like to break free from the past, you need to work through it. There's a difference between surviving and thriving. I think we both know which category you fall into. Shoot me an email and I’ll gladly send you some names of therapists who can help.
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