Moody Motherfucker
We all have moods. It’s a part of being human. And if you’re someone who is connected to yourself and your ego is relatively healthy, you’re going to notice the shifts in your mood.
If you’re like most people, you try to hide these shifts from your partner, rather than being vulnerable in letting your partner know what’s going on.
We humans have lots of stories we tell ourselves for not being forthright about our moods:
I don’t want to look crazy. Or high-maintenance.
I’m worried I’ll say something wrong.
My partner will think it’s about us – then I’ll have a problem to fix on top of feeling “off”.
These are all logical reasons to keep your shit to yourself. To keep yourself armored up. However…
EVERY TIME YOU AVOID BEING VULNERABLE, YOU MAKE YOUR PARTNER FEEL LESS SECURE.
And yet, most of us avoid leaning into these moments the way we avoid the IRS. In fact, we probably view them with the same level of trepidation.
There’s an energetic disconnect that occurs when we bullshit our partners, or avoid tough/honest answers, and that energetic disconnect will actually fuel bickering. Here’s why:
You’re energetically off, because you’re hiding your mood.
She senses you’re off, and becomes ‘off’ in response.
You pick up on her being ‘off’ and you’re more off.
And now you’re both seeing the world through very dirty lenses.
Here’s the GOOD NEWS:
The opposite happens when you admit that you mood is “off”.
You’re telling your partner, “I trust our relationship is strong enough for me to risk looking imperfect.”
You’re engaging in vulnerability – which takes COURAGE.
And when your vulnerability is met with RESPECT and COMPASSION…
Well, that’s where the magic happens 🙂
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