Honestly, Fuck Valentine’s Day.

I’m not opposed to romance. I’m a relationship expert who spends every billable hour of her life (and many non-billable hours) disseminating love advice. I will spend Valentine’s Day 2019 in New York’s Hearst Building: Half the day answering relationship Q&A’s on Harper’s Bazaar’s Snapchat, and the other half on Cosmopolitan Magazine’s Instagram Live, retooling the Tinder profiles for 6 of their staffers.

I oppose mandatory romance. The same way I oppose mandatory drinking on New Year’s Eve.

I don’t like feeling obligated to buy my wife overpriced flowers on a certain day of the year, knowing that in two days the heads of those flowers will look like a bouquet of penises in need of Viagra.

 But I mostly don’t like how Valentine’s Day makes the singles in my life feel. 

 Singles don’t feel overlooked on Valentine’s Day. They feel overly-defined by their relationship status.

 They feel judged. Pitied. Less than.

 And they don’t feel like that on other days of the year.

Click below to read 3 gross misconceptions about what it means to be single.

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When To Call It Quits

When To Call It Quits

I’m not a quitter. Not personally and certainly not professionally. People come to me when they need hope - a cheerleader – someone to fuel inject them with possibility. But every now and then, a client or a friend shares a story about a relationship and it becomes profoundly clear to me that the solution involves ending the relationship.

Knowing when to end a relationship is one of the most important adult skills you’ll ever acquire. Click below for 5 tips to ensure that your relationship doesn’t pass its expiration date.

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