We’ve all been there: You have a question to ask your partner - one you imagine will be touchy… You promise yourself you’ll do it tonight, and the next thing you know, you’re knee-deep in organizing the closet that’s needed attention for months. Or years. And you are most definitely not having that conversation.
We avoid discussions when we imagine that the topic will be difficult, or that it will provoke a conflict. Sometimes we avoid conversations because we anticipate disappointing or hurting the other person. It’s the reason why we ghost.
The thing is, humans suck at accurately predicting how we’ll feel in the future. We consistently overrate the level of discomfort we’ll feel having a tough conversation - and we almost always fail to predict the possibility that the conversation will make us feel better. So why do we act as though we have this magical power?Read More