Forty. Fucking. Nine.

Forty. Fucking. Nine.

And just like that, I blinked and hit the big four nine.  You’d think at my age I wouldn’t feel compelled to announce it. Would, perhaps, be more content to fly under the radar, requiring those who wonder to Google it.  

I won’t deny that I thought about keeping quiet. I hate the self-indulgence of publishing a ‘me’ story. I get a good amount of attention. I don’t need a parade on my birthday.

But then a little voice inside my head questioned whether I was playing into a female stereotype:

The ‘aging’ woman who buys into the expectation that with each passing year, she will fade and become a little more invisible.

And that’s all it took to get my inner rebel stirred up.

Here’s what I think about entering the last year of my 40’s and facing down fifty.

Holy shit. I can’t believe I just wrote that.


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Why you attract losers

Why you attract losers

It never fails. Every time you end a relationship, your girlfriends tell you that they thought you were too good for your ex. They never really understood what you saw in him/her, or why you couldn’t see the warning signs that were so obvious to them.

Everyone falls for a loser now and then. But if you find yourself repeatedly scratching your head about why you seem to be attracted to painfully wrong partners, chances are you’ve fallen into one of the categories on my Why you date losers list.

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The Cure for Falling out of Love

The Cure for Falling out of Love

I’m a sucker for love. I love falling in love, being in love, supporting other people in love – and saving people who are falling out of love.

It’s strange to say, I love saving people who are falling out of love.

Makes me sound grandiose.

But it turns out to be less about me and more about science.

There are certain behaviors that partners engage in (and fail to engage in) that cause them to fall out of love. You see, love is a science. And to ensure that I give you the absolute best information, I went to a pioneer on love, and here’s what he said…


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