How do I choose between a guy and my best friend?

How do I choose between a guy and my best friend?

Dear Darcy, 

I ended up sleeping with my best friend’s ex and now she hates me... 

A couple of weeks before I did it I asked her hypothetically if it would be okay and she said no, however, when I [slept with him] she and I were having severe problems and I saw her ex as more my friend than as her ex. He was very close to me at the time and I had feelings for him and I acted on them. I regret what I did and now I have to choose between him and her and I’m not sure that I can do that... what do I do?

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Pride, Privilege and Power Post Stonewall

Pride, Privilege and Power Post Stonewall

It’s weird to realize that until this week I’d never really pondered my own coming out story. I expect more from myself.

For starters, I’m a therapist. And although I’ve seen lots of evidence to the contrary, I believe it’s incumbent for shrinks to do our own work and to reflect on our own life at a depth I wouldn’t expect from others.

Also, I was writing a memoir during the years when I came out. Who misses the boat on including that story as part of the book??!

This month is World Pride month – it’s the 50th Anniversary of the Stonewall Riots which kicked off the modern Gay Rights Movement. Which is why every podcast host and their mother is talking about Pride, Queers, Coming Out, and Homophobia.

One podcast host posed a question in a way that got me thinking about my own story, apparently for the first time.

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